Why letting go of old versions of yourself is survival logic.
If you’ve ever tried to change, develop or live your true self – and still kept falling back into old patterns, destructive relationships or emotional lows, then you haven’t failed. You have simply experienced something that is perfectly logical:
An older part of you has tried to survive.
And this part – like every inner state – was created at a certain energetic level. A low state such as shame, fear or guilt is not just a feeling – it is the operating system of this old self.
Every old version of you was created in a low energy state
Whether you used to be quiet, conformist, controlling, hyperactive, aggressive or insecure – each of these identities was created under certain emotional conditions. Mostly as a reaction to pain, rejection or insecurity.
And that is precisely the problem:
If an ego has arisen in shame, it needs shame in order to continue to exist. It will therefore – automatically – attract situations, relationships and thoughts that generate this feeling again. This is the only way it can stay alive.
The mechanism: cause → effect → repetition
Everything runs according to a fixed pattern in your system:
Perception → thought → emotion → feeling → action → new perception → thought again…
If the first thought is negative (“I’m not good enough”), a negative emotion (fear), a stressful feeling (tension), an action out of insecurity – and a new perception that confirms you again.
You are not living freely.
You are repeating an old program.
Your subconscious doesn’t want you to be happy – it wants you to survive
What feels safe? What you know.
Even if it’s pain.
Even if it’s shame.
Even if it destroys you.
Because if you know it, it is – from the point of view of your subconscious – safe. And that is enough. New energy states such as love, freedom, peace or self-respect then seem like danger. Not because they are dangerous – but because they are unknown.
That’s why change is so difficult: the new energy kills the old self.
You want peace, but the old you needs drama.
You want self-respect, but the old you needs rejection – to validate itself.
You want to express yourself, but the old you needs silence – because it was created in fear.
And this is the core:
The old version cannot live in an energy that it does not know. It dies when you change. And that’s why it fights back with everything it has.
How to free yourself.
Separation through logical disidentification. That means you don’t have to fight. You don’t even have to heal. You have to separate logically.
Ask yourself the crucial question:
“Is the energy in which this self was created – shame, fear, guilt – really the energy in which I want to experience my life?”
If the answer is “no”, then the consequence is clear:
This me can’t come with you.
Because it can only exist in precisely this low energy.
Letting go is not a feeling. It is a logical decision.
Many try to let go of the old self by understanding, analyzing or comforting it.
But that’s a trick of the system. Because it keeps you connected. You continue to focus on something, your subconscious assumes it is important for survival – otherwise you wouldn’t focus on it.
The only solution is:
“That was an earlier version of me. It was necessary. But it’s no longer logical now.”
When you start to consciously choose new thoughts – thoughts that are logically compatible with the life you really want to lead – the old ego dies by itself.
Not because you fought it.
But because you no longer give it any energy.
Practical implementation: How to let go of the old you.
1. Feel the feeling: Is it shame? Fear? Guilt?
2. Find the first thought: “I’m not good enough.” – “I must not stand out.” – “It’s my fault.“
3. Consciously break the cycle: “That’s an old thought. It’s not logical. And no longer true.“
4. Choose a new first thought: “I am safe now.” – “I am allowed to feel what I feel.” – “I am making a new decision today.“
5. Repeat until it becomes natural: Your brain adapts – through repetition. Just like the old me. Only this time consciously.
Final thought
The ego that was created in shame, fear or control never had your happiness in mind. It only wanted to protect you. With the means it knew.
But you don’t need these resources today.
You don’t need any protection programs, no repetitions, no self-sabotage.
You only need one:
A single new thought. Logical. Now. Repeated.
Exercise
Implementation plan: How to systematically get rid of old versions
1. Analyze the initial situation – identify the condition
Observe your emotional reactions for a week. Every time you feel fear, shame, guilt, anger or insecurity:
Note:
– The specific situation (What happened?)
– The first thought (What were you thinking at that moment?)
– The physical reaction (palpitations, tightness, withdrawal, etc.)
Purpose: You recognize which thoughts are repeated and which old ego is activated as a result.
2. Decouple the origin – recognize the logic of survival
Ask yourself the following questions for each identified thought:
– “In what old state was this thought created?“
– “What did this ego need back then to survive?“
– “Does this thought still serve my life today – or just my old protective mechanism?”
Purpose: Your mind recognizes that this ego is no longer necessary today.
3. Program new thoughts logically – the first intervention
Every time the old thought arises:
Stop immediately and say inwardly (or out loud):
– “This is not my present thought.“
– “This is a remnant. I don’t need it anymore.“
– “I now choose a logical thought that supports my present life.”
Example for new thoughts:
– “I am safe today.“
– “I decide what I want to think.“
– “I am free to have new experiences.”
Purpose: You replace automatic reactions with conscious decisions – exactly at the point where you have control.
4. Repetition makes reality – training over 30 days
Create a daily ego update routine (duration: 10 minutes):
1. Every morning, write down an old thought that has emerged.
2. Next to it, write your new, conscious thought.
3. Read this new thought three times out loud, slowly and carefully.
4. Observe in the evening: When did you make logical decisions today? When were you on autopilot?
Purpose: You specifically train the neuronal pathways that strengthen your new self – through repetition and logic.
5. Physical support – support mental clarity
Optional, but helpful:
Exercise: 30 minutes of walking daily, consciously and without distraction.
Grounding: 10 minutes of barefoot walking on a meadow.
Water: 1-2 liters of still water per day – supports the nervous system.
Diet: reduce sugar – stabilizes emotional fluctuations.
Sleep: minimum 7.5 hours – essential for emotional processing.
A balanced body strengthens your ability to think consciously and recognize old patterns.
Summary of your new system of thought and action
– You realize: “I am not my old reactions.“
– You use your ability for logical separation.
– You replace the first thought – where real freedom begins.
– You repeat until it becomes natural.
– You no longer give energy to the old me – and it loses its power.
Start now with the implementation. Always remember the power of action – and non-action! Stick to logic and program new beliefs. Then your feeling will change quickly, followed by your perception – and thus your experienced reality.